Shy children are the result of an education deficiency. As a consequence they can’t act the way they desire and are not able to become somebody on their own.

Signs of shyness:

•  face vasomotor disturbances;
• sweating hands;
• the need to urinate;
• language disorders (stuttering);
• multiple physical and psychic inhibitions;
• conduct disorders;
• effort of going unnoticed;

When we talk about children, shyness has two faces:

• normal shyness in front of parents (every kids has it, even the most bold one);
• shyness accumulated through educational errors, proper to children that were wrongly prepared for life.

Other causes of children’s shyness:

• timidity of parents, who in turn induce it as an inevitable andincurable family disease;
• the excessive parental concern over child (worrying about diseases, accidents, inadequate friendships, bad manners, dangerous games, as if everything would trigger a catastrophe);
• hyper protection associated with the desire of being indispensable to child for saving, maintaining affectivity;
• ambition and excessive ego of some parents that demand their child more than he can offer;
• changes in family relationships (birth of another child, fights, divorce, etc);
• constant criticism, exhausting supervision and excessive punishments;
• neglecting child in favor of going to work;
• abandoning education;
• inferiority complex.

Overcoming shyness?

In most cases timidity can be eliminated through education. Discovering and putting price on qualities, concealed underneath the negative faces of shyness.

Shy children must be helped to handle, control their reactions, to grow an blossom through physical exercises (sports).

In extreme situations you should seek doctor’s help.

But without emotional support no improvement can be done. In fact shyness, in this case, will intensify its effects.

I guess that the right portion of affectivity should do the trick. You know…not too much, but not to little. It’s all relative!