Self care should be taken very seriously.

What’s more important than you?

N o t h i n g.

Without you standing there right now, who would do the things that you normally do?

Well, it depends on what you are good at and how good you are at doing it… 🙂

I’m a big fan of the value of a human being. And right now I have these words for you:

Be proud of yourself!

No matter who you are and what you are made of, what you did or what you will do…

Respect the value of the human being inside of you, and take good care of it. This might remain the only pure form of us humans (of which some of us forgot about it completely).

Never identify yourself with another person (idol, girlfriend, son/daughter, parent) in the way that your personality and character will not matter anymore. Don’t forget about YOU no matter what happens!

Dr. Carl Simonton (1983), in his work “Healing despite all”, performing an analysis, mentioned chronic stress as first psychological factor responsible for predisposition to cancer.

Because of chronic stress the immune system gets destroyed and hormones become unbalanced, increasing the number of pathogenic cells just when the body is weak in defending itself.

Most cancer patients lost an important emotional relation before getting sick. This loss was felt more acutely by those that had invested their whole identity into a single objector a single role (mother, parent, the job, attachment to another person), more than in their own self (which is in totally contradiction with self care).

Once this object or role is lost, internal resources, untrained in developing the inner self, are so strongly felt that they become self stressing. Behavior is something like… “I give up…” and can reach that point in which the identity is lost.

Bernard Ward (1993):
“To think about yourself means to discover the stunning power of your own mind, because only you alone are the one controlling your thoughts, and through these thoughts you can heal yourself.”

Here is an example of progressive relaxation technique:

1. Walk in a quiet room, maybe a bedroom, and grab a seat somewhere comfortable, with your feeton the ground; close your eyes;
2. Become aware of your own breathing;
3. Inhale deep a few times, thinking “relaxation” after each.
4. Concentrate upon your face and try to feel any tension of your eyes and face muscles; Mentally draw this tension in front of your eyes (closed) – like a rope in a tight knot, or a tight closed fist – then mentally visualize how your face becomes loose and relaxed, like soft rubber;
5. Feel how your face and your eyes have relaxed; while this happens you realize that a wave of relaxation invades your whole body;
6. Tense your face and close your eyes tight; then relax and feel your whole body loose and relaxed; Apply this for every part of your body;
7. Mentally imagine and follow a road down your body, like this: mouth, neck, shoulders, back, forearms, arms, wrists, fists, underbelly, thighs, legs, ankles, feet, toes, until every partof your body relaxes. Every time draw the tension, then draw how the tension disappears, melts away; tense the zone then relax it;
8. After you’ve finished relaxing every part of your body, remain relaxed and loose for 2 to 5 minutes;
9. Let your eyelashes loose and ready to be opened and to become aware of the room in which you are;
10. Leave your eyes opened a little while and get ready to resume daily activities.

Progressive relaxation is for everybody. When you think you need it, try it! (…that’s self care)